When getting ready to move, everyone has the enormous task of collecting boxes, paper, and tape. Packing up so things aren’t damaged or broken can be time consuming. Boxes stacked everywhere for the time before and after the move can be overwhelming. The boxes are labeled and closed shut until they are needed. The filled box is stacked against the wall and a new box is formed and taped together, ready to be filled. It seems like a never ending process until there are boxes everywhere and then when there are very little boxes left. The length of time the whole process takes depends on the individual.
I recently moved. I started packing about a month before. I made sure that the contents of each box I packed was wrapped well, packed neatly, and taped securely. I marked the exact contents on the box and the room it came from so it could easily be found when needed. I only wish I could say that the move went smoothly.
The day the movers came, there was so much that needed to be moved that was still lying around. The movers were grabbing boxes and items and just putting them in the boxes. Items were not wrapped well, some boxes were not taped(even on the bottom), and the boxes were not marked. Everything was moved to a storage unit until my new home was ready. The movers said they would make sure the storage unit was somewhat organized by area and boxes to one side, furniture to the other. What I had hoped for and what it turned out to be were completely different. Needless to say, they completed the move in the allotted timeframe that they had to work with.
What started out as ‘having it all together’ turned into, to be truthful, a real mess! Things were difficult to find. The way everything was thrown into storage collapsed boxes, broke glass and scratched furniture. It was not organized and throughout the move I was overwhelmed and disappointed. The stress level was higher than I expected, as well. I must confess I didn’t handle the stress in the most desirable way at times.
Isn’t that how some compartmentalize life sometimes? You pack your stuff in and close it tight until it’s needed again. Or, in some cases, until it surfaces. At times, things can become overwhelming. Unless the tools are available to safely manage your ‘stuff’, the most likely response is to pack it away and move on from it. When your personal ‘stuff’ is packed away, it sits out of sight. Is ‘out of sight’ really ‘out of mind’?
When you get over it and move on, do you move forward? To me, it’s like moving boxes. You have to unpack the boxes, unwrap the contents, put the item where it belongs, break down the box, and dispose of the box to feel that things are somewhat normal again.
Processing through whatever the circumstance is and getting to the other side can be arduous and sometimes difficult. As in moving and unpacking boxes, working through personal difficulties, relationships, school, business, debt, or whatever seems to be overwhelming and resolving it to a peaceful solution, is worth the time it took to get to the end.
The key to a successful goal achievement is to make a good and reasonable plan. Break that plan up into manageable parts and establish smaller goals and an action plan to reach each one. Be flexible and easy on yourself. It takes time, as it does in packing and unpacking boxes, to work towards and reach goals. If you’re having a hard time sorting through things, seek out a friend or family member, a person you can trust, or there are professionals that can help.
I had to let some things go with my moving experience. I became very familiar with the phrase ‘different people do things differently’! To be honest, I took a lot of deep breaths. I also took a hard look at everything. What I took away was that I made it through the chaos and I can look back on the whole experience as another lesson learned.